I feel Black-ish

"too Black for White people & too White for Black people."

Who determines what means for me to be Black? TV show Black-ish identifies binary fallacies as Dre and Rainbow raise 3 suburbian kids to be cognizant of their Black culture. Watching the Johnsons struggle makes me feel 'Normal.'


Black-ish vs. Binaries

A binary is a set of opposites: Right & left, hot vs. cold, Black or White, healthy, sick, smart, dumb, big, little, etc. Each is theoretically separate but really similar.

Binaries are problematic because identities do not fit into boxes. We're one, both, neither, not yet & unsure. We all face and wrestle with what's 'normal' and 'abnormal' for our categories: woman, man, rich, poor, White, Hispanic, Bl-Asian, conservative, moderate, liberal, homosexual, heterosexual, spiritual, agnostic, disabled, non-disabled, tall, medium-height, fat, blonde, employed, homeless, and whatever other titles exist. 

Binary-based questions I often get:

  • Does your church have Black people?

  • Urban schools are really tough to work in.

  • What will you do if your child is gay?

  • Are you Black Lives Matter or All Lives Matter?

  • How can be a feminist and a full-time mom?

  • Why joke about your health, if it's so bad?

  • Why can't you just get over it?

  • Is Kendall a girl's name or a boy's name?

  • How can you listen to the 'n' word?

No one intends harm, but everyone's question asked me to choose one of two groups that don't exist. Those moments don't anger me reaffirm my goals for sharing my story to allow Truth to fight injustices. To soothe myself, I watch shows like Black-ish where characters feel very divided inside.


Quotes from favorite episodes

I mean, no offense to the other crazy races, but Black people have gotten along just fine without therapy. 

Okay, so what were you doing?

I learned that my anger is useful in some circumstances. Of course, I did not need to go full prison yard in every situation.

I put two identical resumes on this hiring website. Michael Johnson got numerous responses. Devonte Johnson; one ad for a bail bonds.

I'm used to things not going my way. I'm sorry that you're not, and it's blowing your mind, so excuse me if I get a little offended because I didn't see all of this outrage when everything was happening to all of my people since we were stuffed on boats in chains. I love this country, if not more than you do, and don't you ever forget that.

Kendall Crouther